How to Survive Your Divorce

                           

Divorce is one of the most harrowing periods of any couple’s life. It is made even worse if you have kids, because of the extra young minds that you will have to think about, and the stress of making them deal with living in a broken home. In addition to this, divorce involves a lot of pressure and possible confusion because of the complexity of the proceedings. Add this to your already mentally unstable state and you have a recipe for disaster. If you want to have any hope of surviving your divorce, no matter which party you are, you are going to need a few helpful tips, like these: 


1. Choose the right lawyer
You have to pick a divorce attorney if you hope to get the best out of your divorce. If you want a good settlement, you have to pick a lawyer who is competent enough to get you one. Does this mean you spend thousands of dollars for the most expensive lawyer in town? No! Depending on how serious your divorce is going to be (and how aggressive), you can hire an attorney to suit your needs. For example, in Scottsdale Arizona divorce attorneys can be either amazing or terrible. Get a recommended specialist in the field of divorces, and you can almost be guaranteed a good settlement.


2. Find out all you can about joint accounts
Nearly everything about a divorce involves money. Unless you get the odd couple that are amiable enough to go 50-50, there is sure to be an intense battle for the joint money. When you know you are going to get divorced, find out all the information that you can about the money in your joint accounts, as well as the financial history and account details. This includes passwords, automatic payments, account numbers and names. Don’t rush into this though; ask your attorney when you should start digging around for this information.


3. Future expenses
The single life is soon to be upon you, and you need to be prepared for this. Plan for your living costs before your divorce to avoid struggling after. While you might be caught up in the legal proceedings of the divorce, don’t let them take you away from what is most important: getting back on your feet. Making the wrong decisions at this point will almost surely lead to consequences that will last a lifetime. Be prepared to adjust to a different lifestyle as well as a different cost of living.


4. Expect the unexpected
While planning your future expense may seem to be going well, you need to be prepared for any surprises that may pop up. This is more common for women going through a divorce, as men tend to try and shirk their financial responsibilities. Because of this, it is always a good idea to ask for alimony payments upfront, before you lose contact.


5. Don’t be spiteful
Try not to publicize just how much you dislike your spouse. It doesn’t matter what they have done to you, it just isn’t a great idea to be catty or spiteful. Try to be the good guy/gal in the whole ordeal. If you don’t want to do this for yourself, do it for your children. Also, publicly bad-mouthing the ex could backfire. You do not want a defamation of character suit on your hands.


Thanks for allowing me to share my divorce tips with you and I hope they help! What tips did you find useful when dealing with a divorce?