Steve Mcnair After the Facts

I don't want to go in too deep with this situation cause in the end two lives have forever ended, but what I would like to talk about is the communication between husband and wife that will never happen. Steve had been married to his wife Mechelle for over 12 years and together they had 4 kids (2 with wife). In published reports Mechelle has stated that she did not know of any affair that Steve was allegedly having and that they were not by any means planning on getting a divorce. We have no idea what Steve's relationship was with his wife but what we do know is that Steve will never have the opportunity to communicate and give his wife any type of closure in this situation. How do you get over this ultimate betrayal when there is no hope for communication?